How to Handle a Breakup Gracefully
Stay Busy
If you’re too busy running around all the time, then you don’t have time to sit around and wallow in self-pity or mentally relive every moment with your ex or analyze the relationship to figure out where you went wrong. If you’re in school, sign up for extra clubs or teams, take some advanced classes, or get a part-time job. If you’re in the professional world, then make it a point to spend more time with your friends, learn a new skill to advance your career, pick up a new hobby, explore the city your live in, or get a pet. (Seriously, nothing will keep you busier or more distracted from your feelings than a puppy. Trust me, I would know.)
No matter your age, exercise, reading, and socializing are magical breakup-sadness cures. Exercise releases endorphins and endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t cry about their exes. Reading is a way to escape reality and live another life for a little bit. Just don’t read romances, okay? They’ll make you sad. Seeing your family and friends makes you realize you have a ton of people who love and care for you. With these three things, you really can make it through a breakup without losing your sense of self-worth and dignity.
Purge Your Social Media Accounts
Look, there’s no shame in admitting that seeing your ex on social media causes you pain. Don’t try to pretend you’re all good and can be “friends.” It’s a lot easier to get over someone when you unfriend them from your social channels and even block them. That might sound extreme, but if you know you’ll give in and go stalk them when you’re laying in bed alone then be preemptive. Block their account so you can’t go look them up and analyze every little photo they like on Instagram.
The bottom line is that you have to move on. It’s hard to do that when you’re constantly bombarded by their social posts (thanks to that Facebook/Instagram feed algorithm). Tell your friends you don’t want to know what they see on social media either. That’s just going to hurt you even though they’re trying to be good friends. Oh and obviously don’t you dare try to stalk their new love interest. Do not do that to yourself.
Healing and moving on won’t be effortless. It takes time to truly move on, even if you don’t want to go back to that relationship. Be patient with yourself, do your best to stay busy, and focus on the wonderful things you do have in your life rather than this one painful experience.
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Last modified on January 15th, 2019
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